Romantic Compatibility – On Paper
Description
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I recently had a first date with a woman who Chemistry.com told me I had romantic compatibility with. How well did they do? Granted, Chemistry’s romantic compatibility assessment was on paper. But I have to admit, they did pretty darn well.
Maybe too well.
Besides my date being attractive (a quality which has no dimension in Chemistry’s romantic compatibility test. After all, beauty can’t be found in a checkbox) – this woman had several qualities which I felt made her a great fit for me. She was:
Sexy
Educated
Spiritual but not religious
Self-aware
A good conversationalist
With a philosophical bent (she’d even read Ken Wilber’s views on sex and God.)
And there lay the problem. Our first date was so full of heady conversation, it lacked any… what’s the world… chemistry? (Ironic, no?)
Seems she so trusted our romantic compatibility report, she didn’t feel a need to explore the unknowns between us. Instead, we talked about philosophical things. She even emailed me after the date, sharing her delight in the conversation we had. Which made me wonder – was our romantic compatibility such that if we dated, she’d expect deep conversations every night?
Don’t get me wrong, I like exploring the spiritual/psychological side of things. I’ve done my share of that here on my blog.
But a first date should be fun! There should be sparks, innuendo, wry smiles. I don’t expect things to build to a tantric-breathing finale of first-date sex. But I at least want to feel some heat.
Romantic compatibility is fine to compute on paper. But in the end, it has to be felt in person.
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How to Resolve Multilingual Dating
Internet Dating – Sadly. I’m A Bit Of An Expert
The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse
Expectations: The Death of Love
How to Quit Mr. Wrong (Even If He’s Good in Bed)
I recently had a first date with a woman who Chemistry.com told me I had romantic compatibility with. How well did they do? Granted, Chemistry’s romantic compatibility assessment was on paper. But I have to admit, they did pretty darn well.
Maybe too well.
Besides my date being attractive (a quality which has no dimension in Chemistry’s romantic compatibility test. After all, beauty can’t be found in a checkbox) – this woman had several qualities which I felt made her a great fit for me. She was:
Sexy
Educated
Spiritual but not religious
Self-aware
A good conversationalist
With a philosophical bent (she’d even read Ken Wilber’s views on sex and God.)
And there lay the problem. Our first date was so full of heady conversation, it lacked any… what’s the world… chemistry? (Ironic, no?)
Seems she so trusted our romantic compatibility report, she didn’t feel a need to explore the unknowns between us. Instead, we talked about philosophical things. She even emailed me after the date, sharing her delight in the conversation we had. Which made me wonder – was our romantic compatibility such that if we dated, she’d expect deep conversations every night?
Don’t get me wrong, I like exploring the spiritual/psychological side of things. I’ve done my share of that here on my blog.
But a first date should be fun! There should be sparks, innuendo, wry smiles. I don’t expect things to build to a tantric-breathing finale of first-date sex. But I at least want to feel some heat.
Romantic compatibility is fine to compute on paper. But in the end, it has to be felt in person.
Début de l'événement
08.05.2023
Fin de l'événement
08.05.2023